Thursday, October 28, 2010

Sharks in Your Life -A great story

Sharks in Your Life

The Japanese have always loved fresh fish. But the waters close to Japan have not held many fish for decades. So the fishermen had to go further out to sea to catch their supply of fish, the fishing boats got bigger and bigger. The farther the fishermen went, the longer it took to bring in the fish. If the return trip took more than a few days, the fish were not fresh and they lost their fresh taste.

To solve this problem, fishing companies installed freezers on their boats. They would catch the fish and freeze them at sea. Freezers allowed the boats to go farther and stay longer. However, the Japanese could taste the difference between fresh and frozen and they did not like frozen fish.

Also, the frozen fish brought a lower price. So fishing companies installed fish tanks. They would catch the fish and stuff them in the tanks, fin to fin. After a little thrashing around, the fish stopped moving. They were tired and dull, but alive. Unfortunately, the Japanese could still taste the difference; because the fish did not move for days, they lost their fresh-fish taste. The Japanese preferred the lively taste of fresh fish, not sluggish fish.

So how did Japanese fishing companies solve this problem? How do they get fresh-tasting fish to Japan? To keep the fish tasting fresh, the Japanese fishing companies added a small shark to the tanks that the fish were kept in. The shark of course eats a few fish, but most of the fish arrive in a very lively state due to the fact that the fish are challenged.

Moral of the story:

Some of us are also living like fish that have been caught, we give in too easily, and we are not challenged. Some of us could use a Shark in our life. Consider new challenges and problems in your life as a shark - the challenges and problems can keep us motivated and moving forward. Without challenges we can become complacent, find life boring, and become inactive.
Challenges in our lives can keep us moving forward. There are many challenge quotes but one of our favorites is, "When we long for life without difficulties, be reminded that - oaks grow strong in contrary winds, and diamonds are made under pressure.

Friday, July 30, 2010

A Wonderful Story about DREAM

The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?"

I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze. "Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked. She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, have a couple of children, and then retire and travel." "No seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age." I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized, listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me. Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went.

She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up. At the end of the semester, we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I'll never forget what she taught us.

She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."

As we laughed she cleared her throat and began:

"We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy and achieving success."

  • You have to and find humor everyday.

  • You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!

  • There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old, lie in bed for one full year, and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding the opportunity in change.

  • Have no regrets. The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things, we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.
She concluded her speech by courageously singing "The Rose." She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the year's end, Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.

One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.

"Remember, growing older is mandatory, growing up is optional."

Sunday, June 13, 2010

Morni Himachali Song sung by Mohit chauhan..:)

Amma poochdi sun dhiye mere aee
Dhubari itni tu kiya kareeya hoyee yee

[Mother Asks Listen O my daughter,
Why are you so restless?]

Paarli vaniya mor jo bole ho
Amma ji ina more nindara gawayi ho

[Daughter says: The peacock is hooting in the next forest,
O mother, his hooting has taken away my sleep]

Sad le bandukiyo sad le shikari jo
Dhiye bhlaa idaa mor maar girana ho

[Mother says: Lets call hunters and gunner,
O daughter we will take this peacock down.]

Morni marna ayeeee ooooooo
Morni marna morni gawana ho
Oh ammaji inda mor hinjare puwana ho

[Daughter says: No we will not shoot it,
I will put it in a cage]

Kuthi janda chandrama
Kuthi janda tare ho
Ohh aamji kuthi jande dilla-de piyare hoo

[Where does moon go and where do all stars go?
O mother, where do all our dear ones go? ]

Ho chuhpi janda chandrama
Chhupi jandee tare hoo
Dhiye bhala nayyoo chupe dilande pyare ho

[Moon hides and so do all the stars,
But my dear daughter, our dear ones don't disappear anywhere as they remains in our heart.]

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

How To Break Through Negativity

Many of us still don't realize that we can be in control of our thinking processes; that in most cases we can be the boss over how we want to think.

Because of frustrations about our challenges and our frequent feeling of being overwhelmed, many of us have developed incredibly negative thinking patterns and these negative conceptions make it even harder to manage our challenges and move forward in our lives.

Negative thinking processes can be positively influenced by practicing positive thinking. It helps us to focus on what we are good at and what we have achieved, which increases feelings of motivation and happiness.
The result of this is that it reduces our feelings of being depressed or stuck, because we are moving forward into a more positive direction.

If you follow the under mentioned self motivation tips and use them as self motivation exercise you will develop self motivation skills and you will notice a shift towards more positive thinking patterns.

1. Nurture yourself

It will help you tremendously to be more positive when you look after yourself well. Eat healthy, exercise, take a nice hot bath once in a while, have a regular massage, go to the sauna once a week, make sure you rest well, etc., etc.

2. No judgments

If you learn to observe your negative thoughts as passing clouds and realize that it is your choice whether or not you attach to one of them, you do not empower negative thoughts, so that they do not have any power over you. We have 60.000 thoughts per day and it's our choice entirely which one we choose to hold on to.

3. Be physical

We all know how wonderful it can feel when we get or give a hug. It's great to have warm physical contact with people we love and it's even great when we do it with our pets. It instantly gives us a warm feeling inside.

4. Find more social activity

Surround yourself with positive, happy and healthy living people and get nurtured by that energy, because this will have a positive influence on you.

5. Be grateful

There is so much to be grateful for! Take some time each day to think about the things that are good in your life. Make a little list of these things on a post-it and stick them in your diary, on your computer, on the bathroom mirror, so that you are constantly reminded. By reminding yourself of the things you are grateful for you are much better able to deal with challenges and stress issues in your life.

6. Reduce your convictions

During our life we build up all types of convictions about things. "That is not done" or "You should have done so and so... " are simple examples. By not delivering the message of them you expand your world, so that more people and situations can enter your world. It makes your world a bigger and better place. Also refrain from statements like: "You always do that to me" or "You never pay attention to me". Saying things like that make situations seem worse than they are and they program your brain into believing that certain people just don't perform.

7. Speak up for yourself

From our parents and society we have learned to speak in such a way that we are being accepted, so that we are seen as normal. With this habit we have sometimes developed a fear of not being liked or accepted and we start to assume we know what the other person thinks about us.

Stop wasting your time and energy worrying over something you don't even know exists. Start talking to people and ask questions. Speak up for yourself, let them hear your voice. Remember that by speaking from your heart you start to attract whatever it is that you truly want in your life.

8. Stop assuming

Many amongst us tend to automatically have negative thoughts about certain things. "Those people are whispering, they must be talking about me" or "My boss wants to see me, that means trouble". Crush these type of negative thoughts immediately. They are nothing more than idle fancies.

9. Help other people

Each individual feels energized, warm and good about himself after helping another person. See how you can help people. Be a volunteer somewhere, be of help to someone or something or see how you can contribute to society any other way. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

10. Break through the pattern of extensive worrying

If you notice you are brooding on a negative thought extensively, than interrupt that process by forcing yourself to do something completely different. Notice that you are hyper focussing on something negative, something that does not serve you. At such moments your are not productive, not rational and not solution oriented, you are worrying excessively for the sake of worrying. By doing something physical like picking up a book, listening to some music, going for a run, or even going for a walk you break through this negative thinking spiral.

With these self motivation tips you can start changing your negative thinking patterns. Therefore I recommend you to have a good and conscious look at how you are presently functioning in your life and if necessary to do some self motivation exercise in order to obtain the necessary self motivation skills.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

You Are My Life

There was a boy in India who was sent by his parents to a boarding school. Before being sent away this boy was the brightest student in his class. He was at the top in every competition. He was a champion.

But the boy changed after leaving home and attending the boarding school. His grades started dropping. He hated being in a group. He was lonely all the time. And there were especially dark times when he felt like committing suicide. All of this because he felt worthless and that no one loved him.

His parents started worrying about the boy. But even they did not know what was wrong with him. So his dad decided to travel to the boarding school and talk with him.

They sat on the bank of the lake near the school. The father started asking him casual questions about his classes, teachers and sports. After some time his dad said, 'Do you know son, why I am here today?"

The boy answered back, "to check my grades?"

"No, no" his dad replied, "I am here to tell you that you are the most important person for me. I want to see you happy. I don't care about grades. I care about you. I care about your happiness. YOU ARE MY LIFE."

These words caused the boy's eyes to fill with tears. He hugged his dad. They didn't say anything to each other for a long time.

Now the boy had everything he wanted. He knew there was someone on this earth who cared for him deeply. He meant the world to someone. And today this young man is in college at the top of his class and no one has ever seen him sad!

Thanks a lot dad. YOU ARE MY LIFE.

"Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around." - Leo Buscaglia

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Great Quote

The only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work
and the only way to do great work is to love what you do.
If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking and don’t settle!
As with all matters of the heart you’ll know when you find it.
So keep looking, don’t settle!

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Believe in YOURSELF

So before you tell yourself you don”t have the talent of a Michael Jordan or whoever your role model is, remember the extraordinary amount of time they devoted to practice and study. To succeed like them you must put in the effort they did. Otherwise, you can never know what you”re capable of. I believe that if opportunity isn”t provided at a young age, it can be created later in adulthood through discipline and imaginative involvement in the pursuits we care about. You can and must look for ways to experiment and to push the boundaries of your capacity in different areas.